chivalry's not dead!
from now on it's this...
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:
“What kind of man are you looking for?”
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do
you really want to know?’
Reluctantly, he said,”Yes.”
She began to expound…
“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to
ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any
man…or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’”
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, “I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I
need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t
need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe
for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t
need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a
woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and
game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and
provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must
respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I
have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will
recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection,
but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for
man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished her spill, she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said,”You are asking a
lot.”
She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.
source: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=539105256147898&set=a.456710667720691.106642.456700231055068&type=1&theater
because it is true... that I AM WORTH A LOT. bought with a price.
just like how for king and country gave me hope that there are still guys out there who will be willing to go far ad beyond to make themselves worthy to "want" me alone, not even "have" me yet. and that article on the newspaper from a doctor who wrote a letter to his daughter (This one) saying that... it has never been my task to "keep him interested" making me realize that while i have to be worthy of someone they have to be worthy of me as well... that ultimately... there is gonna be someone who deserves me because he is the one God gave me... and I am the one that God gave him.
The search is back on. for GOD's best. and when i say it's on.. i dont mean i'm available and ready to date again... what i am saying is... the idea of "a guy who is so perfect for me is out there" is believable again... that the words: compromise, settle, lower your standards, are completely deleted from my book of "finding the one".
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:
“What kind of man are you looking for?”
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do
you really want to know?’
Reluctantly, he said,”Yes.”
She began to expound…
“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to
ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any
man…or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’”
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, “I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I
need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t
need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe
for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t
need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a
woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and
game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and
provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must
respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I
have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will
recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection,
but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for
man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished her spill, she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said,”You are asking a
lot.”
She replied, “I’m worth a lot”.
source: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=539105256147898&set=a.456710667720691.106642.456700231055068&type=1&theater
because it is true... that I AM WORTH A LOT. bought with a price.
just like how for king and country gave me hope that there are still guys out there who will be willing to go far ad beyond to make themselves worthy to "want" me alone, not even "have" me yet. and that article on the newspaper from a doctor who wrote a letter to his daughter (This one) saying that... it has never been my task to "keep him interested" making me realize that while i have to be worthy of someone they have to be worthy of me as well... that ultimately... there is gonna be someone who deserves me because he is the one God gave me... and I am the one that God gave him.
The search is back on. for GOD's best. and when i say it's on.. i dont mean i'm available and ready to date again... what i am saying is... the idea of "a guy who is so perfect for me is out there" is believable again... that the words: compromise, settle, lower your standards, are completely deleted from my book of "finding the one".
God's best (sorry super delayed) is something that only God can give when you ask God for it. Makes sense? IT should because it really is as simple as that. What's usually difficult is the patience that we don't ask for and the strength to resist temptation before and during meeting the best person :)
ReplyDeletegreat post mariel :)